Book Review: How We Fight For Our Lives

โ€œ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ. ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜ˆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ข ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฌ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜จ๐˜ข๐˜บ, ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜งโ€


Itโ€™s a little past midnight, but I read this memoir in one day and I need to write this review RIGHT NOW!

SUMMARY: Haunted and haunting, How We Fight for Our Lives is a stunning coming-of-age memoir. Jones tells the story of a young, black, gay man from the South as he fights to carve out a place for himself, within his family, within his country, within his own hopes, desires, and fears. Through a series of vignettes that chart a course across the American landscape, Jones draws readers into his boyhood and adolescenceโ€”into tumultuous relationships with his family, into passing flings with lovers, friends, and strangers. Each piece builds into a larger examination of race and queerness, power and vulnerability, love and grief: a portrait of what we all do for one anotherโ€”and to one anotherโ€”as we fight to become ourselves.

An award-winning poet, Jones has developed a style thatโ€™s as beautiful as it is powerfulโ€”a voice thatโ€™s by turns a river, a blues, and a nightscape set ablaze. How We Fight for Our Lives is a one-of-a-kind memoir and a book that cements Saeed Jones as an essential writer for our time.


Briefly, the memoir focuses on Saeedโ€™s life from 1998-2011, from the age of 12 to roughly 25 (which is blowing my mind as Iโ€™m already 29 myself). It centers on his extremely personal experiences of growing up gay and black in mostly small towns under the care of a single mother. The middle of the book is mostly about Saeedโ€™s life and sexual experiences as he transitions from high school to college, but the beginning and end bookend beautifully with his relationship with his mother (and really sheโ€™s a constant thread throughout).

I appreciate Saeedโ€™s candor and vulnerability in telling his story. There are moments both shocking and raw (sexual and violent). I am neither gay nor black, so I couldnโ€™t personally relate to everything, but he told his story with such beauty, heart, and humanity that it was easy to empathize with all of it. Also I am not typically a fan of explicit sex in books, and word of warning here it gets graphic at times, but I am so glad overall that I read this book.

Saeed gets to the heart of his experiences and the writing is both poetic and real in a way that is captivating. I simply couldnโ€™t put it down! This book is very much about his life, but it is also a wonderful tribute to his mother and mothers everywhere

Rating: โญ๏ธโญ๏ธโญ๏ธโญ๏ธ

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๐Ÿ“Review of โ„๐• ๐•จ ๐•Ž๐•– ๐”ฝ๐•š๐•˜๐•™๐•ฅ ๐•—๐• ๐•ฃ ๐•†๐•ฆ๐•ฃ ๐•ƒ๐•š๐•ง๐•–๐•ค +++ โ€œ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ. ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜ˆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ข ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฌ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜จ๐˜ข๐˜บ, ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜งโ€ +++ Itโ€™s a little past midnight, but I read this memoir in one day and I need to write this review RIGHT NOW! +++ Briefly, the memoir focuses on Saeedโ€™s life from 1998-2011, from the age of 12 to roughly 25 (which is blowing my mind as Iโ€™m already 29 myself). It centers on his extremely personal experiences of growing up gay and black in mostly small towns under the care of a single mother. The middle of the book is mostly about Saeedโ€™s life and sexual experiences as he transitions from high school to college, but the beginning and end bookend beautifully with his relationship with his mother (and really sheโ€™s a constant thread throughout) +++ I appreciate Saeedโ€™s candor and vulnerability in telling his story. There are moments both shocking and raw (sexual and violent). I am neither gay nor black, so I couldnโ€™t personally relate to everything, but he told his story with such beauty, heart, and humanity that it was easy to empathize with all of it. Also I am not typically a fan of explicit sex in books, and word of warning here it gets graphic at times, but I am so glad overall that I read this book. Saeed gets to the heart of his experiences and the writing is both poetic and real in a way that is captivating. I simply couldnโ€™t put it down! This book is very much about his life, but it is also a wonderful tribute to his mother and mothers everywhere +++ Rating: โญ๏ธโญ๏ธโญ๏ธโญ๏ธ . . . . @theferocity @simonbooks #readingvicariously #booknerd #bookporn #bookstagram #bookstagrammer #booksarelife #booksaremagic #booklover #bookworm #book #books #bibliophile #reading #readerlife #bookreview #bookreviewer #bookreviewersofinstagram #howwefightforourlives #memoir

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